Today’s task:
Establish & communicate your boundaries
Today’s task is a very important component of creating financial abundance.
Boundaries. I feel like the phrase ‘you can’t live with ‘em, and you can’t live without ‘em’ is indicative of my relationship with money.
I’ve realized that I have a pattern in the kinds of people I’ve been attracting in my consulting work – the farmers, specifically, that I’m working with. And I’m not sure if it’s a reflection of who I am, where I need to grow, or is a ‘test’ that is forcing me to establish healthy boundaries.
I listened to a fantastic audiobook that I’ll link at the bottom of this post that I highly recommend on this topic. I think I may have already mentioned this in a previous post, but boundaries are a continuous practice to establish and enforce.
Listening to this book has not only helped me become more aware of my boundaries (or lack thereof) and also recognize when others around me don’t have healthy boundaries. That in itself was worth my time. The cool thing is, I’ve been much more aware of my boundaries – physical, emotional, work, relationships, etc., and it’s helped me go into situations, as well as steer in a different direction sooner than I would normally.
Let’s make this more concrete. I stood my ground the other day when a person I had been spending a lot of time with tried to kiss me. It wasn’t the right moment. And I knew what it would feel like when it was. I communicated what I wanted in the moment and didn’t fold under the pressure of the moment like I would have normally. This is an example of exercising my physical boundaries.
In work, this might look like putting certain clauses in contracts, or making adjustments to the scope of work as changes arise instead of staying silent and feeling resentment.
There is no one straightforward way that boundaries can be created or what it will look like for someone to encroach upon your boundaries. You are your own unique person, and this will be personalized based on your own life experiences.
The important thing is recognizing that when you start to set boundaries for yourself, you signal to the universe what you are and aren’t willing to settle for.
Here’s your journal prompt for today:
- What are the boundaries that I need to set right now?
- What are ways in which I may have accepted something as is even though I wanted a different result or didn’t communicate what I needed at the moment?
- What did I fear might happen if I expressed my desires?
- When was the first time in my childhood I felt this same feeling?
- What will it feel like after I’ve communicated what I need/want and have it go well?
Today’s resources to keep you inspired:
- Set Boundaries, Find Peace, by Nedra Glover Tawwab (book)
- Anastasia, by Vladmir Megré (book; more on this in future posts!)
